My future in-laws were in town over the past weekend and let me tell you, it went a lot better than what I had expected (or did it?) I had zero expectation this time. As matter of fact, I thought about the worse-case scenarios such as talking about the wedding before my engagement had even happened yet or asking what my plans are for future, even though I had explained that part over and over again.
So, to make this long story short, let me run it down in the most simplest, time-consuming way.
Friday: I drove to the restaurant to meet them there. Lou Malnati’s. Dinner was pizza and salad with 30-40minute casual conversations about the weather and more weather talk followed by the silence. We said our goodbyes and I went home. They stayed at the hotel (thank God).
Saturday: His parents came over to our place. She complimented how cute the place was. Everyone got in one car, we drove to get some Korean style chicken soup. After lunch, we stopped at the mall and there I received my very first gifts from her. A necklace and a $200 winter jacket I do not need.
We came home after the city walk then I decided to make them something for dinner. I made some spicy cabbage soup with rice. I thought it turned out well but she wasn’t too happy it. She was concerned about the way we eat. I guess I should have known to make sure to feed his son some red meats at least 2 or 3 times a month because chicken doesn’t consider as meat… She thought all we eat is soup… His dad even made a comment about start learning to cook better.
Come on folks! You’re really going to judge my cooking skills based on one meal? the week when I ran out of food?!
Moving on. We thought it would be nice to walk around the neighborhood after dinner so we bundled up and there we went for some fresh crisp air.
His mom: “So, how much schooling do you have left?”
Me: “I have about x amount of classes left before I transfer”
His mom: “What are you planning on doing with your current job?”
Me: “Unfortunately, I could only take few classes at a time because I need to make sure to bring an income so, my goal is to continue nannying and going to school for part time until I gratuate. Nannying allows me to study and get my work done at work”
His mom: “….sigh. You know, they’re not going to keep you forever. They’ll move on eventually and you have to figure out what you’re going to do after that. What about a nursery school?”
Luckily, my boyfriend jumped in to remind her that out of all people, I know how this gig works.
As you can imagine, I was pretty disappointed. I don’t understand what the problem is. Is it me not going to school for full time? or is my job not satisfying enough?
The thing is, I’m doing best as I can right now. Wait, no probably a lot better than most people without a degree. I paid off all my debt, I made the decision to go to school, I’m paying my tuition as I go, I have savings account and I make your son happy.
Nannying IS my best option because most people do not realize, nannies makes over $40-50,000 a year when nursery teachers make $19-20,000 a year. The nursery directors only make $40-41,000 a year. See what I mean here?
It’s just so… disappointing to hear that from his parents when I have so much love for them. I WANT to get to know them better and I dream to have this amazing relationship with my future mather-in-law but I guess you don’t hear that often.
Lesson learned, I think it’s best for myself to continue doing what I’m doing and focus on the two of us. At the end of the day, it’s me and him that counts and we have to learn to create our own lives with our own decisions. Who cares if I’m not good enough for them? I know I’m good enough and my boyfriend sees that therefore that’s all that matter.
Due to the severe snow storm in NY, their flight got canceled so his parents did not leave until early Monday morning. It was an exhausting weekend let me tell you.
I’m glad I’m back to my own little world.
Maybe in time, his parents will learn to get to know about me more and not be distracted by the materialistic. They’ll realize how amazing I am.
Only time will tell.
Hope you guys are enjoying the rest of the week! stay warm and those of you who are in school, good luck to you! Mine started last week and already overwhelmed!